I found some great sellers on etsy.com and one had headbands and the super sweet turtle clip that is on the side of M3's head in this photo (but you can't quite see). Not sure if we'll wear it to school tomorrow, but it's definitely something we could put in for church or somewhere else that Mom can keep an eye on it and retrieve it should it jump ship.
Today, I knew we should do something, but I'm still a little faint of heart after our second attempt at flat twists did not go as smoothly as the first. I had seen coils in natural hair in kids and adults alike and wondered how hard it would be to do. I had read that you could do them with a comb, but you could also do tem with your fingers.
Sounds intricate, I thought.
Then, I watched some tutorial videos on YouTube and thought, "Hm. I've actually done that to M3's hair before and not really on purpose, so maybe I could give it a whirl and see how it goes."
M3 was happy enough to sit and later stand (so I could reach the very back at the bottom) while munching on Cheez-Its and watching Noggin.
She likes to lean on me and hug me a lot while we're doing her hair so it can be a little interesting trying to hold on to sections while she is twisting around in her seat without warning.
I'm hopeful that the new sleep cap we bought her will keep her coils from completely coming undone overnight. We'll see.
While it's super simple to do, I don't really think I'd have the time in the morning to redo a whole head's worth. But, I could probably figure out a way to resurrect certain areas without her missing the school bus.
I even showed my husband how to do it so that if he wants to take over hair styling duty while I'm out of town next weekend, he can. I'm betting he'll ask me to re-do this style the night before I leave town if it lasts through tonight's slumber.
In other news, we had our six-month post-placement meeting with our social worker yesterday. We were very honest with her and she has alread provided us with the names and numbers of three families who have adopted internationally more than once and who are thriving after doing so. We definitely don't fall in that category, but we are looking to build a support network of adoptive families and it would be great if those families were local like these ones are. She is also looking into other services for us, like respite care, so that we can try to break the cycle we're currently experiencing. That would be amazing.
We are also in contact with our International Adoption Clinic's staff to schedule the "I've been here for six months" appointment. It will likely be in the middle of November as will parent-teacher conferences. I'm already working on an ulcer for both appointments, thank you very much. But, I'm also looking forward to seeing the psychologist at the adoption clinic and seeing what kinds of things weekly appointments might be able to help M3 with--we know everything takes time, but the sooner we start, the sooner we may turn our first corner.
I can't believe in a couple days it will be seven months since we returned from Ethiopia. The time has flown and dragged all at once. Still looking forward to a time when things are a little more even keeled and the roles of a 'normal' family are comfortable ones for all of us to be in once again. I really hope that the services we are looking to take advantage of will break this perpetual chain of frustration and angst on all our parts. It would be a huge relief.